Prepare to be as surprised as we were after we had researched this subject. For many of the conclusions, which are strictly Bible
based, don’t follow traditional Christian ideals, nor do they follow modern practices.
However, recognize that our purpose isn’t to liberalize or water down the traditional views of proper moral conduct, nor are we setting new strict standards. We are just showing what the Bible says, what the words actually mean, and how they are applied in Bible examples.
Unfortunately, due perhaps to the strict codes imposed upon themselves by celibate men and women, many religious doctrines overemphasize
God’s views regarding sexual conduct, while allowing equally-important matters of proper Christian conduct to fall into the background.
On the other hand, many Christians have in fact allowed rules of proper sexual conduct to become somewhat of a joke, viewing them as ‘old fashioned’ and ‘out of date.’ Both extremes fall short of living a righteous life.
The Greek word for marriage is gamos, and the Greek word for wedding is nymphon.
In most cases among the ancient patriarchs and the Israelites, a wedding or marriage usually consisted of four steps:
1. Paying the bride price and its acceptance by the potential bride’s parents
2. Taking the bride
3. Consummation of the sex act and providing proof of virginity
4. The wedding feast.
As you can see, the ancient process of marriages and weddings are quite different from modern western customs, and more similar to those
which are practiced in Islam today.
There was no ‘wedding ceremony,’ no preacher or priest, and no governmental certification or registration.
Of course, God created the marriage arrangement when He brought the first woman to Adam. And in this way, he set the example for the
meaning of marriage. Notice what Adam himself understood about this; for he said (as recorded at Genesis 2:23, 24):
‘This is now bone from my bones and flesh from my flesh. She will be called woman, because she was taken from man. And because of this, a man will leave his father and mother and bond with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’
So, two people become one in the act of having sex, as well as in the overall relationship.
In the Bible examples, each of the marriage partners had roles that they were expected to play; the husband was the protector, provider, father, and
head, and the wife was the mother and housekeeper.
Also, to keep harmony in the relationship, Paul (the Apostle) urged (at Ephesians 5:33) husbands to love their wives as they do themselves, and wives to have a ‘Godly fear’ or ‘deep respect’ for their husbands.
Of course, ancient Israel was a male-dominated society, and the Bible’s examples reflected the customs of the time.
However, showing love and deep respect will always strengthen a relationship.
The Greek word that is often translated as fornication is porneia.
However, in this Bible, we have more accurately translated it as
sexual immorality, because porneia actually refers to something that is sold, as in the lewd sexual performances of a prostitute, not just to copulation.
Note that it implies sexual acts with any person with whom one is not married.
In the Bible, any woman that commits porneia with someone other than her mate is referred to as a whore. And in the Old Law,
we find this injunction at Deuteronomy 23:17:
‘There may be no whores among the daughters of Israel, nor may there be any [men] among the sons of Israel that are sexually immoral.’
Why is it important for Christians to stay free from porneia?
Paul explained it well at 1 Corinthians 6:15, 16, where he wrote:
‘Don’t you know that your bodies are all a part of the Anointed One? So, should I take one of the Anointed One’s body parts and give it to a whore? May that never happen!
Don’t you know that whoever joins himself to a whore becomes one with her body? For he says,
The two will become one flesh.’
So according to Paul, our bodies are now a part of Jesus. And when we join to someone other that our husband or wife, we are defiling Jesus.
The Greek word that is often translated as adultery is moichao (pronounced moi-kow).
It implies taking something that is mine, or an infidelity.
Adultery is viewed as something particularly disgusting by God. In fact, it was one of the few things that was listed as a capital offense in the Old Law,
and it was repeatedly cited as a primary reason for God bringing destruction upon IsraEl and Judah.
Note, for example, His words against them as found at Jeremiah 5:7-9:
‘So with them, I’ve now become filled;
For, they have committed adultery,
And whores find rest in their homes!
‘Like horses, they snort and are sex crazed…
Each one for the wife of his neighbor.
Thus, for such things, should I not pay a visit, asks Jehovah?
Yes, over such a [bad] nation,
Shouldn’t My soul take its vengeance?'
The Greek word for divorce is apoluo, which means to unbind or set loose. And although we can think of no Bible examples of faithful men or
women that divorced their wives or husbands, the Old Law did make such a provision. For at Deuteronomy 24:3, 4 we read:
‘If you take a wife, and after living with her, you find that you no longer love her because of some disgusting thing that she may have done, you may write out a divorce certificate (gr. bibliou apostasiou) and put it into her hands, then send her away from your home.’
But later, Jesus later elaborated on God’s view of the matter.
Notice his reply to the question that the Pharisees asked, as found at Matthew 19:2-9:
‘However, the Pharisees came to test him, asking,
Is it legal for a man to release his wife on just any sort of grounds?’
And [Jesus] replied:
Didn’t you read that the One that created them long ago made them male and female, and said,
This is the reason why a man will leave his father and mother and stick to his wife, because the two will be one flesh? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, no man should separate what God has put together under the same yoke!
Then they asked:
So then, why did Moses say that we could give her a divorce certificate and dismiss her?’
And he answered:
Moses, realizing how hardhearted you are, allowed that you would divorce your wives. But it hasn’t always been that way!
I tell you that whoever divorces his wife except on the grounds of sexual immorality and marries another, is an adulterer!'
Therefore, it is clear that divorce for reasons other than sexual infidelity puts the person that does the divorcing in a bad relationship with God,
since this shows a lack of respect for what they have vowed and a selfish lack of true love.
And note that the words ‘sexual immorality,’ as used in the scripture above, indicates a lewd sexual act with someone outside the marriage arrangement, not some act between husband and wife.
However, the Scriptures do make provisions to annul a marriage whenever the husband had expected his wife to be a virgin, but she proved not to be.
This was the reason why ancient marriages were consummated prior to attending the wedding feast.
We have noted that there is some question as to when a divorced person that marries another is actually guilty of adultery. For the implication
of Jesus’ words as they are rendered at Matthew 5:32 (which is the most quoted scripture on this subject) is that even an innocent woman (one that has not been unfaithful)
that has been released, is an adulteress. For most Bibles render the words there as reading:
‘But I say to you that everyone that divorces his wife except on the grounds of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.’
Yet, notice how these same words of Jesus are clarified in the parallel account at Mark 10:11, 12. In Greek, this verse reads:
‘Hos an apolyse ten gynaika autou kai gamese allen moichatai ep auten. Kai ean aute apolysasa ton andra autes, gamese allon, moichatai,’
‘Whoever, anyhow, should/divorce the woman of/him and should/marry another, commits adultery against/her. And if she should/divorce the man of/herself and marry another; she/commits/adultery.’
So we have rendered these verses as reading:
‘Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.’
As you can see, the same words as quoted by Mark don’t contradict what is written in Matthew, they just clarify what was meant.
Notice that Jesus wasn’t really condemning innocent divorced husbands or wives as being adulterers. Rather, he was condemning the one that chose the divorce as being the adulterer or adulteress.
The point being:
God does not recognize a divorce for reasons other than infidelity.
And if someone (either husband or wife) choses to divorce for reasons other than that and then has sex with or marries another; they are viewed as being guilty of adultery.
However, there appears to be no condemnation of the wronged and released mate, as is indicated in other translations of Jesus’ words at Matthew 5.
But once their mates takes another, the marriage bond is broken by the adultery, and it appears as though they are free to remarry without the stigma of adultery.
Notice how a misunderstanding of the purpose of God’s Law concerning divorce is currently creating hardships for many Jewish women that have
been released by their husbands but have not been given the necessary religious papers that would allow them to remarry, as reported in the BBC article of March 13th 2014,
‘Plight of Jewish Chained Women Trapped in Broken Marriages.’
From this you can see how important a ‘Certificate of Release’ was under the Old Law, and how a woman that was released by her husband was considered an adulteress if she remarried without such a certificate.
So, this appears to be what Jesus was discussing.
Note also God’s view of how such a divorce is a total dissolution of the union (Deuteronomy 24:4-6):
'And if she chooses to remarry after she leaves her first husband (due to the fact that her first husband didn’t care for here and divorced her and sent her away), and this [second] husband should die, the former husband may not remarry her after she has had sex with the other man, because that is a disgusting thing before Jehovah your God.
You must not dirty the land that Jehovah your God is giving you to inherit.’
Of course, although that is part of the Old Law, which Christians are not under; it does reflect God’s thinking on the matter.
Here is one case where the early Mormons may have been right; for a deep study of the Bible shows that there are no laws forbidding polygamy,
and that God in many cases actually directed and blest the taking of more than one wife and/or concubine, as in the case of Jacob.
Outstanding polygamous men that were blest include Jacob, David, Solomon, and many others.
In fact, God symbolically spoke of Himself as having more than one wife in Ezekiel 23.
In the case of levirate marriage (taking the wife of a dead brother or close relative, as in the case of Boaz and Ruth); polygamy may have actually been required by God, since the laws on
this do not mention that the man that takes his brother’s wife must not already be married.
They simply required that a man should claim his dead brother’s property and his woman.
Yes, the standard set by God in the Paradise was one husband and one wife. And at Deuteronomy 17:17, Israelite kings were instructed not to
accumulate many wives.
However, the reason given for this was so that they would not lead the kings away from pure worship, as happened in the case of Solomon, not because polygamy was immoral.
Another scripture that is often quoted to show that polygamy was forbidden to Christians is 1 Timothy 3:2. For many Bibles quote Paul as
writing that ‘overseers (or bishops) should be husbands of one wife.’
However, the fact that this statement had to be made proves that some Christians did have multiple wives.
For more information on the proper translation of this verse, see the linked Note, One-Woman Man.
It is interesting though, that by the First Century, polygamy was not common among the Jews. Rather, as Jesus pointed out;
the custom was to divorce old wives and get new ones.
But the reason for this change in custom appears to have been brought on by Roman occupation; for polygamy was frowned on (if not forbidden) by the Romans.
And if so, here is an unusual case of ethnics setting new moral standards for God’s people.
The Greek word that is often translated as concubine is pallake.
According to Wikipedia:
‘A concubine is generally a woman in an ongoing, matrimonial-like relationship with a man, whom she cannot marry for a specific reason.
The reason may be because she is of lower social rank than the man (including slave status) or because the man is already married. Generally, only men of high economic and social status have concubines.
Many historical rulers maintained concubines as well as wives.
‘Historically, concubinage was frequently voluntary (by the woman and/or her family’s arrangement), as it provided a measure of economic
security for the woman involved.
Today, concubinage is reserved for the most apex alphas who can maintain a de facto harem with concurrent long term relationships.
‘In opposition to those laws, traditional Western laws do not acknowledge the legal status of concubines, rather only admitting monogamous marriages.
Any other relationship does not enjoy legal protection, making the woman essentially a mistress.’
In patriarchal times, concubines were usually slaves; and as the result, their offspring were referred to as ‘home-born’ or ’native-born servants’
(see Ecclesiastes 2:7).
AbraHam, for example, was known to have more than a hundred of such offspring (see Genesis 14:14).
And although many have written to argue this conclusion; note God’s instructions to AbraHam, when He was making the Agreement with him involving circumcision (Genesis 17:12):
‘All of your male children must be circumcised by you when they are eight-days old, throughout all your generations. [This includes all the] servants that are born in your house and those that are bought with money (the sons of aliens who are not your seed).’
You can see here that those who are ‘home-born’ are differentiated from those that are not the seed of AbraHam.
Notice that Job said (as recorded at Job 31:1, 2):
‘I’ve made a vow with my eyes,
That I’ll not pay attention to virgins…
For, what I have came from God up above;
The inheritance of what the Most High sees fit.’
However, notice Job’s situation at the time, as found at Job 19:17, 18:
‘I call out to even my wife,
And call sweetly to the sons of my concubines.
Yet they listen not… they just stand there.’
So it appears as though there was no shortage of women for those that could afford them in patriarchal societies.
Incest may or may not be immoral, for in many cases that we read of in the Bible, marriage between brothers and sisters was either the only option
(as in the case of Adam’s children), or it was the safest option (as in Abraham’s choice of his half-sister Sarah).
However, it was clearly for the welfare of the resulting offspring that God eventually included an injunction against such close family marriages in the Old Law (when the prevalence of genetic defects could cause harm).
So, taking a husband or wife from as close a relative as a brother or sister is not immoral, it simply isn’t safe.
On the other hand; marrying, or having sex with, or just exposing the nakedness of fathers, mothers, aunts, uncles, sister-in-laws, brother-in-laws,
your children, or their mates, or their children is immoral, because: according to Leviticus 18:6-22, you are shaming another relative
that is closer by symbolically uncovering their nakedness (see the account for examples).
And of course, where no marriage between a male and females is involved, all the rest is simply porneia (immorality)
Masturbation is simply viewed as a nasty practice that is frowned on by the Bible. However, it is not specifically forbidden anywhere.
The practice of masturbation is specifically addressed in the Old Law at Leviticus 15:16-18, which reads:
‘Any man that ejaculates semen must wash his whole body and be unclean until evening.
And every piece of clothing, or any skin on which there is semen must be washed with water and be unclean until evening.
And when any woman goes to bed with a man and receives his semen, they must both bathe in water and be unclean until evening.’
So notice that the practice was considered unclean, but no more so than normal sexual relations.
Of course, many Christians quote Jesus’ words found at Matthew 5:28 to prove that masturbation is wrong. For there he said:
‘But I tell you that man that stares at a woman and develops a desire [to have] her, has already committed adultery in his heart.’
So, was Jesus forbidding masturbation?
Well, Jesus specifically mentioned adultery here, not porneia. Therefore, the implication is that married men were urged to be satisfied by their own wives, not to lust after other women.
And obviously; lusting after another man’s woman amounts to covetousness, which was forbidden by the Tenth Commandment.
Sodomy is linked to the Bible only by its ties to the name of the unrighteous people of the city of Sodom that were destroyed for seeking
to have sex with other men (in this case, angels).
That such an unnatural act by men against other men is frowned on by God, is indicated by the words of Jude, when he likened their actions to the angels that lowered themselves by having unnatural sexual relations with ’the daughters of mankind’
(see Genesis 6:4 and Jude 1:6, 7).
Males that sodomize other males are specifically mentioned at 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 as people that ‘will not inherit God’s Kingdom.’
For there they are referred to as arsenokoitai, which literally translates as, ‘male bed-ers.’
Note that the most likely reason why God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah was because of the people’s violent mistreatment of strangers, not the attempted sodomy itself. We have concluded this from what God Himself said about His reason for destroying those cities, as found at Ezekiel 16:49.
Then, does the sodomizing of a willing mate fall under the same condemnation?
Although this is likely an ‘unclean act,’ there is no specific mention of it in the Bible.
Oral sex has surely been practiced by women on men and men on women through the ages, and it is never forbidden in the Bible. In fact, the cryptic words of the Shulamite girl (as found at Song of Solomon 8:1) could possibly have reference to this.
Oral sex might be viewed as an ‘unclean act;’ but in the absence of Bible instructions, the practice between married couples should be considered a matter of personal conscience.
On the other hand; the practice of oral sex between unmarried persons of the same or the opposite gender surely qualifies as porneia, and is the same as any other immoral sex act.
God considers having sex with any lower animal something disgusting. For His Law at Exodus 22:19 says:
‘Anyone that [has sex] with an animal must be put to death.’
And at Leviticus 18:23, 24 it says:
‘Nor may you lie down and have sex with any animal, for that would pollute you.
Nor should any woman offer herself before any animal to breed with it, for that is disgusting!’
Although many people no longer view homosexuality as immoral, the practice is still considered ‘disgusting’ by God.
Notice that He said in His Law (at Leviticus 18:22):
‘You must not go to bed with a man as [you would] with a woman, because that’s disgusting (gr. bdelugma).’
Then at Romans 1:26, 27, Paul once again described God’s view, when he wrote:
‘And this is why God abandoned them to their dishonorable passions; for their females changed the natural use of themselves into something that’s unnatural, and the same is true of their males.
They left the natural use of females and started burning in their lust toward each other – males with males – doing what is indecent and receiving the type of reward they deserve for such wrongdoing.’
Also, at 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Paul wrote:
‘Don’t you know that those that are unrighteous won’t inherit the Kingdom of God?
Don’t make any mistake about this; Sexually immoral people, idol worshipers, adulterers, gays, men that have sex with men, thieves, greedy people, drunkards, insulters, and extortionists won’t inherit God’s Kingdom… and that’s what some of you once were!
However, you’ve been washed clean, you’ve been made holy, and you’ve been found righteous through the name of our Lord Jesus the Anointed and the Breath of our God.’
So Paul was saying that although many who became Christians back in the First Century had once practiced such things, they stopped doing them and made themselves clean, holy, and righteous.
However, an important point to notice here is that homosexuality was not listed as any worse than adultery, or being greedy, or a drunk, or a thief, etc.
Therefore, any person that is sexually or otherwise immoral should not feel that he or she is in any way better in God’s eyes than one that has performed homosexual acts.
So the point is:
As with First-Century Christians, we must stop doing bad things and be ‘washed clean’ if we wish to be counted as righteous by God.
Recognize that the homosexual lifestyle is generally one that involves sex with multiple partners, and when this is true, the person is also guilty of porneia.
So to become a Christian, such acts must be left behind… which may be as difficult to do as for those that are involved in other immoral lifestyles!
Also notice that although Paul called those that practiced the deeds he mentioned above the unrighteous.
And he wrote (at Acts 24:15) that there will be a resurrection for both ’the righteous and the unrighteous.’
So although Paul said that people that continue to do such things won’t inherit God’s Kingdom, he didn’t imply that they are eternally damned, as many religions teach.
For the promise at Revelation 21:7 is that all that are resurrected and thereafter ‘conquer’ their problems will ‘inherit these things.’
All we know about this matter is that God viewed a man’s having sex with his wife during her monthly period as a defilement of her,
so it was forbidden under the Old Law.
And at Ezekiel 18:5, 6, we find that a man who finds God’s favor is described as being
‘fair, righteous, and just; who doesn’t feast in the mountains to idols; whose eyes are not [filled up with pride]; whose thoughts are of the house of IsraEl; who doesn’t defile the wife of his neighbor, nor does he defile his own wife by going near her during her menstruation.’
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